Are we going to live together? The domestic partnership

Written by: Dr. Alfonso Prieto Rodríguez
Edited by: Top Doctors®

When a young couple decides to start living together, there are many factors and circumstances that should be taken into account both for analysis and consensuarlos. Thus, the crucial decision to "live together" will be an important step in building a future together and not a problem of the relationship.

You need to know if both are ready for this new stage. For example, if you have spent many years together but everyone living in her parents' house, you will surely need advance.

The couple is vital independence at a certain point in the relationship. Not usually uncommon in the time preceding a serious commitment of the couple depression, escape reactions, states of anxiety, confusion of identity are given, etc..

Coexistence involves spending more time together, something very positive for the relationship, and is the privileged relational framework to grow as an individual subject. However, it also carries the possibility of a greater number of conflicts.

When you start this stage, both will have to negotiate to reach agreements on the division of labor, in terms of responsibilities, the distribution of work and leisure, social and family relations, economic issues, etc.. All this can cause occasional argument, but is necessary to agree basic rules of coexistence and operation, as this will avoid problems later.

The common search for solutions at this stage reaches a special intensity and can be very helpful for the formation of the identity of the couple.

Despite spending more time and activities, it is essential to maintain the space, privacy and tolerance for proper adaptation. Living together does not mean losing the individuality: there will be greater interdependence in a common project that is not to limit the life of each.

A good relationship is possible, according to experts in psychology , as long as you accept the other as he is and not try to change it.

Concessions are necessary, as is the ability to communicate and resolve conflicts, leaving aside egos and concluding the best for all. As they are sharing most elements is being built a method and structure for making decisions accepted is set by both.

In short, the first couple months laying the groundwork for what will be the relationship. It is a test that must be overcome to know the quality of our emotional commitment. At the start of cohabitation, a road is undertaken: both grow together change and must constantly readjust.

*Translated with Google translator. We apologize for any imperfection

By Dr. Alfonso Prieto Rodríguez

Prestigious specialist in Psychiatry, Dr. Prieto Rodríguez has a degree in Medicine and Surgery from the University of Valladolid and a Specialist Doctor in Psychiatry at the Dr. Villacián Psychiatric Hospital by the University of Valladolid since 1982.

Throughout his career, he has gained experience in the Management and Management of Health Services, in addition to having been Head of the Mental Health and Psychiatric Assistance Service at the Castilla y León Board.

Currently, he works as a doctor in the psychiatric hospitalization unit of the Virgen del Rocío University Hospital in Seville. He combines his assistance work with teaching, as Associate Professor of the Department of Psychiatry at the University of Seville.

*Translated with Google translator. We apologize for any imperfection

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