There are many reasons that lead a couple to attend therapy with the specialist in psychology. Dissatisfaction with the relationship, infidelity, sexual difficulties or poor communication are some of the highlights.
Conflicts sometimes are given by a change in the life cycle of the couple, and often increase with the arrival of a baby, with the retirement of one or both members or when the children are emancipated. Any of these situations as daily requires a process of adaptation that sometimes the couple can or can not do.
When the couple has tried to find solutions without result, it is very important to seek help from a therapist specializing in the subject. There are couples who come once they start to notice that there are problems and others take months or even years to ask for help.
What is couple therapy?
Couples therapy is not unlike a single therapy in the background, but in the form. Normally, it takes several evaluation sessions, which will attend the two partners and interviews will also be made separately. Having assessed the situation and defined the goals to be treated, begins the therapeutic process itself, where a communication training, negotiation, increasing listening skills, empathy towards the other, addressing sexual problems if any will be made, etc.. It is necessary that both partners commit to work on your relationship, do not keep secrets to the other member or to the therapist and get involved emotionally. At the end of the day, that success depends largely therapy.
In general, it is more likely to be women who ask for help gender and cultural, but man can be equally or more interested she. When one of the two members do not want to go to therapy, the therapy does not work. In the same way that the problems affecting the two, the two sides of the pair are necessary to solve. To be successful it is important that the two members come and get involved in the sessions. Keep in mind that at first, or even throughout the process, the level of interest and involvement can go changing and alternated between Member. But if one of the partners wants to therapy to solve their problems and the other wants to separate, therapy is not feasible.
All couples therapy requires a minimum interest of both. But sometimes, couples therapy does not arise to restore the relationship, but to help break it and break less painful, less traumatic. Here you can also make the approach to a professional.
How effective are they therapies partner?
Approximately 70 to 75% of couples who come to therapy able to improve their relationship and resolve their conflicts. In other couples, the reasons for the lack of success usually two. On the one hand, couples who have a damaged relationship and too entrenched problems. On the other hand, when one of the two partners are not interested and not involved in the process because we want to be separated and only goes to prove to himself or another, they have tried everything. In these cases, it is difficult for the couple succeed.