The Dr.. Miralpeix Garcia below explains how parents should deal with the conflicting attitude of his teenage son.
The teens is the stage of life that ranges from 11 to 18 years. It's a stage full of complexities with the enormous changes that the person experiences both at the body as psychic. Also changes at the societal level are presented both in relation to their peers and teachers and their families, especially in the relationship with their parents.
In general terms we could say that the most troubled time of adolescence is between 11 and 15 years. It is the time of the Puberty, when the biggest physical changes as the relationship with parents may be more difficult.
There is a second stage between 15 and 18 years when the teenager is stabilizing gradually, you can better understand and share the events around him, his identity is formed. The relationship with parents is less conflict although it may challenge some rules that put limits required.
parent- adolescent relationship
The attitude of parents is essential to help your teen develop as a person, that is, help you better cope with their life circumstances in order to be independent in a proper way and so you can interact properly with your
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At this stage, it is important to have patience, hope and perseverance. We can and we must listen, advise, but knowing that they have to experiment and learn from their experience. Do not ever belittle or preach. The respect is essential. Assess the positive.
Teenager listen and see his parents much more than it seems and sometimes we learn from his example, not realizing or just imitating their parents opposing the model. Everything leads us to consider that we must consider what our attitude and if we think about how we want our children to be.
Dealing with the adolescent requires a mixture of flexibility and strength but also of consistency and clarity. We can not give contradictory or arbitrary orders according suits us or get carried by nerves and get to scream.
Discuss and negotiate is a job that pays off if slowly. If we are going to lose his temper is better to postpone the issue and continue to talk another day. Explain our reasons for our son to forbid something, makes the ban can assume that more adult way.
May be useful consult a psychologist if the situation is especially complicated by the behavior of the child or parents have questions or need to be heard. Obviously, the education of a teenager puts parents to the test and need to contrast their ideas with someone to help them find another angle to alleviate the situation. It would be a psychological counseling to parents through interviews in which the child is not present and vice versa. This approach allows each party can speak more freely without the other party feels offended or hurt. In this case, interviews with parents would be at specific times. The psychological work is done primarily with the teen.
Psychotherapy is a treatment where the therapist listens and helps the person, by verbal interventions, to elaborate their feelings and thoughts. This helps the person to open new perspectives on situations before and he felt overwhelmed closed. They can then produce relational changes and especially on a personal level to improve self-concept and self-esteem of the individual.
If the teen does not exhibit a cooperative attitude and refuses to come to the interviews would be desirable to analyze the situation and see what way can help you by your parents. In many cases, interviews with parents help clarify that circumstances at the family level may be affecting adolescent behavior.